Why I Chose Marriage

When I met my husband, I knew something was different; I knew that if I dated this really cute California boy with the really cute smile then I would be stuck forever. At first I resisted the feelings, then I resisted kissing him but resisting "fate" can only last so long (two weeks, I'm weak).  I realized I was in love with this cute boy and so I married him 9 months later. I was 19 at the time; yes I know I was young, yes I know that I was (after several months of dating) stereotype, and yes I have probably heard that joke/statistic about being married at 19. Funny thing about doing what you feel is right to do instead of what others think you should do is that you end up happy, at times blissfully happy.

Marriage is becoming outdated in our society and co-habitaion, divorce, and casual dating are taking over. Why choose to get married?

I chose to get married so I could spend everyday with my husband, for better or for worse. There is a catch to spending everyday with another person, they have to spend time with you too! You have a helpmeet someone that will be your partner and biggest supporter in life. Ideally in a marriage spouses will take care of each other and love each other, and isn't that what we all want?

I chose to get married to have a family. Marriage is ordained of God meaning that in the grand scheme of things we are given the opportunity to find a life long partner and make huge commitments to make us happier and to help us to be better. When we are born we are born into a family, our family may not be perfect but they are there to help us. Families are the unit that make our societies function.

I chose to get married to grow as a human being. Anyone who says that marriage is going against nature is RIGHT! Marriage is not a natural tendency which is why most creatures in the animal kingdom do not mate for life. We are not animals though, we are a higher intelligence and we need to grow beyond what feels natural and focus on things that will make us better. Marriage helps us grow in ways we never thought possible. We have to learn to put our selfish desires aside and focus on another human being.

In my four short years of marriage I have grown to be a better human being and I have learned these things, for the most part, from my husband. He helps push me to be better and I do the same for him. Marriage is challenge and it is hard but it is so worth it.

https://www.lds.org/topics/marriage?lang=eng