New Traditions

When you get married you start a new family and within this new family you 
start new traditions. This wassomething that I struggled with. I wanted to 
keep all of my old traditions. Why change something when it seems to be 
working so well? Well I was definitely wrong and my stubbornness and pride 
has hurt myhusband several times. I think I am getting better but I know I can 
do more to incorporate his traditions.

How do you decide on traditions? What changes do you make with the old ones 
you grew up with? 

For starters communicate. This seems like the answer to everything because in 
most cases it is. Communication between spouses is imperative to a healthy 
relationship. The best way my husband and I have decided on our traditions is 
by going through what we have each experienced and picked which traditions 
we liked best. 

Don't be afraid to change. This was something that, like I said, was very 
difficult for me. I wanted us to celebrate holidays all of the ways I was used to 
celebrating, but in a marriage you have to be open to change. 

Going along with don't be afraid to change, don't be afraid to drop 
something that doesn't work. So you tried out a new tradition and it didn't 
go as planned and you both found it tedious and annoying, get rid of it. Don't 
make the holidays stressful it is a time to show love and be happy. 

Have a good attitude (again this is for me). When your spouse suggests 
something new to try, be open and do it with a positive attitude. Be excited 
be cheerful.

Last but not least, have fun! New traditions are supposed to be fun for a 
family. Embrace your new family and laugh and love all through the new 
traditions.

Enjoy your family and Merry Christmas!