Consecrating our Marriages

The book and author referenced: Drawing Heaven into your Marriage by: H. Wallace Goddard PhD

Goddard really focused on the fact that we need to give all we have to our spouse and then when we feel like we have given it all, we need to pray for the capacity to give more. What a wonderful concept in marriage. We have to truly give all we have to our partner and let go of the little faults we find. I particularly loved this quote "No partner on the face of the earth can meet all of our needs. In mortality, we will live with disappointment. We can dwell on our disconnect or we can celebrate our points of connection." (p.100). More often than not our spouse will do something that is different from the way that we do things and we can choose to dwell on those small disconnects or we can move past them and do our best to let them go. 

 

I have some really great examples of marriage in my life but my dad's parents stand out to me the most. My grandparents have been married for 54 years and dated through high school as well. I know there marriage wasn't always the way it is now you can see the growth and the charity they have for one another after so much time together. Everyday they set aside time for each other and that is their "quality time" for the day. This isn't the only time they spend together; they eat all three meals together and they both get up early so they can enjoy a morning cup of hot chocolate and talk about the paper. At nights they take time to watch the news, a western, or a football game. I know they still have date nights and we frequently hear about the movies they see together. They truly love spending time together and they love serving one another. My grandmother once told me that the most important relationship is not with my children, it is with my husband. After my children are all gone he will be all I have and I better like who he is or else it is going to be a quiet house. I have taken this advice to heart and done my best to follow it. I know that if we give our all in a marriage then we will have much greater success.